Taking Each of our Children on Regular Dates



A long while back, Anatolin and I decided that we should try to have individual dates with our kids. When we were in Baguio and Amulek was around 8 years old, on our first date with him, he said he was glad to experience how it felt like to be an "only child".

In the past years, it was a real challenge for us to do it regularly because we had to arrange with someone to take care of the other kids. This time that our children are already old enough to be with themselves, we intend to be more consistent with our schedules.


We are grateful for the privilege to be able to relate and connect with each of our children in special ways, and be able to focus on just one of them even for a little while. Doing this, we realized that the value we place on each of them becomes more tangible. 

The best part is it doesn't have to take a long time to be meaningful or be expensive or elaborate adventure to be enjoyable. They always look forward to their scheduled day because they get to choose the activity that they want to do with us or what they want to talk about. 


Click this link for ideas to make memories with your children either as a family or on your one-on-one dates. 


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